Most girls and women expect men to be perfect gentlemen. They expect them to open doors, cars, carry heavy bags, pay the bills and many many more things. There's a lot of talk about the real gentleman. But I was asking myself why the man has to do the whole job. Something must be wrong here and that's why I was thinking about what a real Lady is.
"A lady is a woman who is the counterpart of a lord; or, the counterpart of a gentleman.The word comes from Old English hlaifdige; the first part of the word is laif, loaf, bread, as in the corresponding hlaford, lord; the second part is usually taken to be from the root dig-, to knead, seen also in dough; the sense development from bread-kneader, bread-maker, to the ordinary meaning, though not clearly to be traced historically, may be illustrated by that of lord." (Wikipedia)
But I don't think this defintion is sufficient. As I am observing the behavior of women quite a lot I've seen different types of women.
The feminist who doesn't appreciate men being gentlemen, who pays her own bills, opens doors herself and refuses on men trying to carry her bags. There's nothing wrong with doing these things, but I think these women have just forgotten what was put in men and women's heart by God. Protection on the man's side and beauty on the woman's side...
The contoller loves men who are gentlemen. It's very important for her, she expects them to behave just like that. When they're out for dinner she doesn't even make the slightest move when getting the bill and yet when it comes to the part where men like to conquer and hunt she doesn't give him any room there as she has the word available written all over her. It's a sad thing seeing how so many girls just give themselves up for the man and controll them. They call, they do everything just that it is working. But men are not created like that. They want to hunt and to conquer, they don't want an all available women too easy too simple, to get.
The Lady is the one who doesn't take the Gentleman for granted. She doesn't controll the man either. She doesn't shout "Carry my bag, open my door, pay my bill." She appreciates every step he makes, she let's herself be conquered by men. And she captures him with her unfailing beauty of God, with her rest and her love. He feels comfortable in her presence, he can be himself.
It's like a back and forth game between them. He's a gentleman, he gives, she receives happily and gives back. It's the most beautiful thing to watch.
I want to be a Lady like that and I want to ecourage you girls to be Ladies to. So I'm asking you. What about you girls? Do you want to be Ladies? What do you think a Lady schould do or how should she behave?