Saturday, November 22, 2008

How to Date - Part 1

So finally I am starting my two part series about dating. I am taking my notes from you(th) as we've talked about that the last two Wednesdays.

For those of you who expect to hear a list of things on what to do in order to date the right way will be mistaken. This is not to tell you how to date and get a boy/girlfriend, but to explain you that Jesus always must come first, that God's intentions for you are always the best and that it's all about stepping into His will and His plan for you life!
So in this sense let me give you two verses to encourage you concerning this:
Ephesians 1:18 "I pray that your hearts will be flooded with light so that you can understand the confident hope he has given to those he called his holy people who are his rich and glorious inheritance"Psalm 100:4-5 "Enter his gates with thanksgiving; go into his courts with praise. Give thanks to him and praise his name. For the LORD is good. His unfailing love continues forever, and his faithfulness continues to each generation."

So, what is Dating?
The world tells you that Dating is two people are togehter with the goal of sexually getting closer. But this is not what God has in mind.
Acutally the interesting thing is that you will not find two many verses to tell you, this is how to date.
Your parent's opinion would probably be that dating is two people who like each other and are over 25. Well, they want to protect you and make sure you are mature and old enough to understand the responsibility that comes with dating.
Your friends would probably say, dating is when two people from different groups of friends are together to romantically get closer.

But when we look at the core of dating it is merely what we have seen above. Why putting so much pressure on yourself by having to have the romantic atomosphere or feelings in the beginning. It can make a situation really disconcerning.

So a definition for dating could be:
Dating is when two people are together with the intention of getting to know each other better.
Hence, there is no romance in the beginning. I want to encourage you take out the awkwardness and fill it with meaningfull quality times of getting to know each other. How could that look like? Well, let me ask you this question: Does a date always have to be candlelight, dinner and a movie? Could it not also be a hike, hang out time with friends, doing life together? I honestly believe it can and I also want to encourage you to not only hang out just the two of you. Get together with a group. Experience, how the other person is around his/her friends, around their parents, sibblings. That's when you get to know the person's heart, the person's attitudes and not only the way he/she behaves around you.
Therefore, dating is the process of getting to know each other better in order to build up a FRIENDSHIP.

There are three lies about dating and I will give you two today and the third one in Part 2.

1. Everybody dates somebody.
Everybody talks about it but it's not true. Not everybody dates somebody and it is totally fine to not be dating. Often times it is probably better to not date in order to be able to fully focus on Jesus and draw from His love, get confirmation from Him instead of another. Especially we women would easily do this.

2. In order to be somebody you have to be with somebody
This lie can easily lead you into dependency of a significant other. Like I said above, sometimes it's better not to date to not get into this despendency, but to fully rely on Jesus!
Hence looking at both these lies we can see that initially it is about our IDENTITY, who we are and who we build our identity on!
Let me remind you, God wanted YOU! You are WANTED and He has a great plan for your life, so don't listen to these lies and listen to Jesus. Have Him in the midst of your life, build your identity on Him and be with him!
Open your spiritual eyes and see yourself the way God sees you!
Read Romans 5:8 and Psalm 139!

So to finish part one on How to date let me summarize this in one sentence:
Your worth is not in who you are with but who you are!

That's it for now with Part One, come back soon to read more about How to Date in Part 2.

Until then.... Focus on Jesus!

xoxo Ramona

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

The Fruit of the Spirit


before I start my series about "How to date" I want to give you a little impression of my last weekend. My friends and I went to the Swissalps to stay over night. What a refreshing time!!!

It was perfect timing as I had a pretty hard week behind me and just needed the time off to refresh again. On that Saturday morning I was journaling and God just showed me again that I am connected to His Powerhouse! But I have to decide to plug myself in. So I did and I read Galatians 5: 22: "But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!" (NLT)
Let us produce those things. May we ever grow in living in the Spirit and hence producing His fruit which will endure enternity.

Keep clicking on the page for more about How to date soon.

Friday, November 14, 2008

How to Date

I plan on doing a 2 part series on How to date soon... So keep coming back to the site to hear more soon!!

xoxo Ramona

Monday, November 10, 2008

Let's do Life together

Today I want to talk a little about friendship. We easily call somebody our friend, but do we really understand what friendship means?

According to, the word friend is from before 900 and comes from the word to love. Now isn't that interesting that the word friend and love are connected? I am not suprised. And Jesus talks in John 15:13 about the greatest love of all, for it is to lay down your life for your friend. It Jesus's case that was meant literally, he laid down His life, so that we may be His friends!
So in order to understand what a friend is we first understand what love is. At this moment I like to quote 1. Corinthians 13
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! (NLT)

Having this in mind, let us ask ourselves: Am I really this kind of a friend? Am I enduring through every circumstance with my friends, o matter what comes? Have I ever given up on a friend?
I know none of us is perfect and through different stages of our lives, we have different friends, or people move away or go into different directions. I understand all of this. But look at the friendships you are having right now. How's your attitude about this friendship?

I once heard somebody say that in our journey of climbing the mountain there are people who walk before us, they lead and guide us on our journey. Then there are the people who come after us. Those are the ones we lead and guide on their jouney - oh what a responsibility!
And then there are those people who you are doing the journey with, you are climbing the mountain with them. Together you can do it, together you are able to go around one more time, make the next steps. These people are peers and friends. Do we have these kind of friends who we do the journey with or differently said, people who we do life with?
I want to encourage you today to find people like this. Don's shut yourself out thinking you can do it all alone. Find people you can trust. Build up these kind of friendships where love is the center of it. Find people to do life with!

So... enjoy the journey!

xoxo Ramona

Monday, November 3, 2008

My God is the God who provides

Hi... I mean hello,

I am so sorry that it took me forever to update this page. A lot has been going on in the last 2 months with the banquet for my pastors, Hillsong Conference in London (which was amazing, envisioning, encouraging and equipping) and visits at my grandmothers! Life is great and I belong to a great God who is ever faithful, ever loving and ever true! What would I do without him. I have such a love for the Lord in my heart I cannot describe it!
Here are the words of a worship song which I fell in love with recently:

Desert Song

This is my prayer in the desert
When all that's within me feels dry
This is my prayer in the hunger and need
My God is the God who provides

This is my prayer in the fire
In weekness or trial or pain
There is a faith proved to more worh than gold
So refine me Lord through the flame

And I will bring praise
I will bring praise
No weapon formed against me shall remain
I will rejoice
I will declare
God is my victory and he is here

This is my prayer in the battle
When triumph is still on its way
I am a conqueror and co-heir of Christ
So firm on his promise I stand

All of my life
In every season
You are still God
And I have have a reason to sing
I have a reason to worship

This is my prayer in the harvest
When favor and providence flow
I know I'm filled to be emptied again
The seed I've received I will sow

I hope that your walk with the Lord is going good that you pursue to go deeper with Him and love Him more every day!




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